By Smangele Gumede · Apr 20, 2021

We as woman are known to be nurturers. We take something good and make it better. We are probably the only people who understand fully the complexities of being a woman and yet often we fail to consider them when it comes to matters of the heart.

If the question was posed, “are you able to put yourself in someone else’s shoes?” Most of us would answer, yes.

With recent events we often dwell on the injustices and inhumane treatment of men on woman. However, we have been known to not get along very well ourselves.

Men have a guy code and woman do not have a sister code. Could this then be the reason we hurt one another so much? You may ask how do we do that ?

We compete unnecessarily, we gossip, rather than build each other and we tear each other down. We even go as far as dating a man who has a wife and kids.

Whether their marriage is on the rocks or it’s love in paradise. Another woman’s family is exactly that, hers, until officially divorced.

Yes my sister I am talking about adultery. In our circles we often avoid the topic because we fear to offend, but this is a social ill that births other more serious social ills. Thus we need to have open discussions about it. We all know someone or we are that someone who has dated or is dating a married man.

Whether we believe in karma or the law of harvest, it is a proven fact that sooner or later we reap what we sow.

So the next time we are tempted to fall for a married man, May we rather consider what we may reap from it.

A famous writer said “when you pick up one end of the stick you also pick the other end.”

And a Chinese proverb said. A journey of 1000 miles begins with one step.. so watch your step.

The question then still stands, are you your sister’s keeper?

If no, may we have a change in heart. Let us unite, nurture and work together to build up than tear down our families which are the building block of our community.

The change begins with me and you. Let’s do it now!

Remember you and I are royal daughters of the most High God. Let us walk in our heritage and divine nature.

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